People tell me all the time how well I cope with Emma's sickness. I understand their comments, and their well-meaning. But...I don't really like to be told how "well" I'm doing. Sometimes I don't feel like I'm doing well at all. Sometimes I feel like I'm falling apart!
So I decided to figure out why I come off as "coping". I examined everything I do, and I realized that one thing that helps me work through things the most is (duh) my writing. I am a writer. I express myself best in the written word. I get my negative feelings out, and then I feel better to face the world.
I don't journal, but when I'm feeling particularly strong about something I will write it down. And then, I'm always writing other things (articles or stories, etc.). Writing is my coping mechanism!
I think everyone needs a healthy way to cope, because while we don't all have kids with cancer, we do all have stress (especially during the holiday season!). For some it's crafts, or exercise, or singing, or dance, or reading. What's your coping mechanism? If you don't have one, you should find one. After all, if it works for me, it can work for you, too!